Die To Love
This is book is for those who have been genuinely searching and longing for ‘awakening’ or ‘the truth’. Die to Love directly points the reader to the end of the spiritual search once and for all. ‘I am not trying to help you. If you read this book I will simply destroy you. And who am I? I am you. I am Life itself.’
Die to Love explores the desperate longing for love and surrender that so many people feel. But are we willing to lose everything that is familiar and safe in order to know that love that we long for? Are we willing to die for love? This is the death, not of the body, but of the identity called ‘me’. Unmani looks at what it is to fall in love and how in moments of intimacy there is no separation. Two merge and become one. Two separate individuals know that they can never be separate. There are also chapters on relationships and the madness of love as well as unconditional and conditional love, and what compassion really is.
Paperback: £9.99 / $14.95
Ebook: £6.99 / $9.99
French version now available from l’Originel.com.
Japanese version now available from YesAsia.com
Dutch version now available from Samsarabooks.com
Extracts
This book is pointing to the end of the search...
‘This book is pointing to the end of the search. It is not yet another stepping stone on the path towards an elusive final goal. It does not give you any advice as to how to live or how to feel good. This message is ruthless compassion. If you still want to feel good rather than know the truth, then this book is not for you. I am not trying to help you. If you read this book I will simply destroy you. And who am I? I am you. I am Life itself. I am who You are beyond who you think you are or believe yourself to be. There is no separation between us, between reader and writer. Know this before you continue to turn the pages. Know that what is written here, is written by You.’
No more just testing the waters out of curiosity...
‘No more just testing the waters out of curiosity. No more playing with words and concepts. True Love demands nothing less than full immersion. To die to Love, is a complete surrender. It is truly realising that no experience, no concept, no meaning, no state, no condition, no person can provide the peace that you long for. This is the end of all that. ‘
‘You have to lose all ideas of who you think you are before you can know who You truly are, and to value who You truly are. Lose all that you hold sacred and special. Lose all hope. Be totally left with now, this. Surrendered to what is. Stripped naked. No more maybes. No more what ifs. No more ‘someone else might know’.’
Love sees itself everywhere and loves what it sees....
‘Love sees itself everywhere and loves what it sees. It does not have any opinion or preference. It does not doubt or criticize. Love does not discriminate. It does not believe that there is anything or anyone outside of Love. Love sees through the illusion of thought and belief. Love sees the pretence of a separate ‘me’ and loves that too. It knows there is no real separation but loves the play as if. Love does not resist or control. Love has no need to make everything safe. Love is never safe. Love is always alive and free. Always fresh. Always now. Love is a total surrender to what is.’
You long to really be broken open and bleed....
‘You long to really be broken open and bleed. To lose control and to really feel and be alive. You long to live as if this is the last moment on earth. Like a child who screams when if feels discomfort and laughs in ecstasy when it feels joy. You long to be that free and surrender totally to life, and yet you are terrified of it. Losing control or expressing joy is considered very ‘undignified’ or crazy. You have so many ideas of what ‘others’ may think. You have many ideas of what might happen if you really lived as the Innocence that You are.’
What we call Awakening is actually being touched so deeply...
‘What we call Awakening is actually being touched so deeply that it destroys your life. You lose everything. Dare to let Life take you. Lose yourself. Then you’ll truly know what Love is.’
Death is the beginning of life....
‘Death is the beginning of life. Die to who you think you are and wake up to Life as You actually are. This is Love. This is Freedom. The death of everything that has ever defined you. Death of all reference points. The willingness to be present with naked death reveals the absolute, undeniable beauty and presence of what is eternally alive. Meeting death right now is waking up to yourself as timeless Presence.’
Love that loves itself despite it all....
‘Love that loves itself despite it all. Love has no name. No shape. No form or even a feeling. Love is unbound by condition, space or time. Love never cares what is next or why things happen. Love is always fresh and new. It is free – Freedom itself. But Love is also an annihilation. Love is the end of ‘me’. In Love there is no ‘you’ or ‘me’. There is no mine and yours. All boundaries melt. Nothing to hold on to. True Love is a death.’
In this play of Life there is a natural movement...
‘In this play of Life there is a natural movement towards openness and truth. Once you begin to recognise that you are not separate, there is no end to this movement of Love. Love deepens and opens itself like a flower. There is no end to its flowering. When there is a yearning for truth, this natural movement towards openness and truth is never-ending. It is continuously deepening and opening itself to Love. Wherever truth finds lies, the lies become such a contradiction that they can not last for long. You can not hold on to who you think you are, or any unconscious patterns, for long. Love tears down your whole house. You lose everything.’
Most of the time you behave as if you are afraid of Love....
‘Most of the time you behave as if you are afraid of Love. You prefer to play with all the words and concepts of Love, rather than face the actual annihilation of Love. This fear is the separation that you long to go beyond. You long for Love, but you fear it because you know it is death. You long for it because you know that in dying, only then can you really live. You feel stifled by thought and concepts but often find no way out of it. Thought tries to go beyond thought and so there is only circling in thought for years. In believing thought you live a half life.’
Sometimes the experience of intimacy can be so intense...
‘Sometimes the experience of intimacy can be so intense and revealing that often the first impulse is to run away in fear. It can be a terrifying experience when you realise – if only for a moment – that you are not who you think you are. All pretences are seen for what they are. All barriers come down and all that is left is vulnerability and innocence. You are the innocent child, no matter how grown-up you pretend to be. You are pure Love no matter how ‘cool’ and ‘hard’ you pretend to be. You do not know, no matter how much you think you know and have it all under control. You are so lost and have nothing….You are absolutely nothing.’
Reviews
‘Unmani’s compelling new book, Die to Love, points fearlessly to the truth of who you really are. With courage and clarity, she addresses some of life’s greatest mysteries like ego, love, surrender and death. This is a focused and ruthless journey into looking at the core questions of what it means to be fully human. Die to Love rings with a Truth that will surely be savored by the longing Heart. Highly recommended.’
‘An Unreasonable Message of Absolute Immediate LoveTo paraphrase George Bernard Shaw: “The reasonable woman adapts herself to the conditions that surround her… The unreasonable woman adapts surrounding conditions to herself… All progress depends on the unreasonable woman.”I have had the privilege of meeting and spending time with Unmani. I know Unmani. She is what she writes; there is absolute authenticity in her self expression, and that makes here quite unique in a world of spiritual hypocrisy. The thing is, Unmani Hyde is an unreasonable woman. Perhaps that is her greatest strength, because to be the Love we seek is most assuredly an unreasonable proposition. Happily, Unmani not only elucidates Love more eloquently than anyone else I know, she also, like a great poet, evokes this in the reader who approaches her writings and talks with an open mind and heart.As she makes clearer and clearer as you progress through the book (and I suggest that the reader do so slowly, savoring each page) True Love requires a kind of death of reason and rationality, a dying of the false sense of separateness into the absolute infinity of that which never changes: Nonconceptual Love. As St. Paul noted, “Love Is Eternal”. I would add, “full stop!” When Unmani writes, that is what she evokes! This is an amazing book, a rare and radical look beyond all that is known and all that is unknown directly into That Which IS … Love Eternal. And she makes it perfectly and abundantly clear that YOU are That. And That, the Love You really are, is forever Unborn yet fully present here and now. It is nothing but everything … embracing all, in a raw, open aliveness that is palpable and self-evident in Unmani’s expression.For example, ponder this point: “Most teachings are trying to replicate the Love that you are. This is still a denial that you are that already, just the way you are right now. By suggesting that you should try to be more loving, or more aware, you are believing that who you already are is not already all that you try to become. You can not try to be Love when you already are Love. There is no need to try.”Obviously, I love the book! Five stars for sure. It is bold, refreshing and courage, and a direct and provocative challenge to our cherished myths and habitual beliefs about what Love is (and for that matter, what hate” is as well! The chapter on “hate” is not to be missed.) It can for the open hearted reader, completely undo all those beliefs and opinions, myths and rules about what Love really is, beyond any ideas, and perhaps most potently, it takes the reader beyond even those greatly admired so-called “spiritual truths” that have had humanity in its grip for thousands of years. So take heed of this warning to the ego-bound mind: Her exposition of what Love is might just blow the spiritual seeking and its associated dogmas and demagoguery into a billion shards of bright light.As for “enlightenment” etc: She writes this … “If you believe that you have arrived somewhere or have found some permanent state, this is simply arrogance. Love is never found. Thought wants a resting place, but there is none. Thought wants something to hold on to, but there is none. Thought may say “I’ve got it!” or “I am awakened now”, “I am enlightened now”, but Love can not be contained by thought. Love doesn’t care what thought says. Love goes on and on and on destroying you…I hope this book takes off like a meteor and transforms the mind of humanity. It is much needed and much longed for by the heart of all that is. I hope the reader of this review will let Unmani’s Love and courage take you over, and take you back home to the Love you already are: Die to Love and awaken to who you really are!’
‘This book is a deep and heart-felt investigation into what the “me” is, only you don’t realize you are investigating as you are reading it. It is written so masterfully that the inquiry into which the book draws you, from the beginning, is effortless. The pages just read themselves. What a strange and winding road humanity finds itself on–looking for life, looking for love, as if that can be pinpointed and boxed up in a label or location. Unmani skillfully reveals the futility of that seeking. She reveals that when we start with what we already are–love–the disintegration of the seeking energy that tries to box up and pinpoint life and love disintegrates. Die to Love is such a delicious invitation to openness and vulnerability too, revealing that our efforts to self-protect are based in fear. As Unmani says, in the willingness to stand naked in the fire of the unknown, love reveals itself to be already here, outshining all fear. What a beautiful thing to know….that, despite all of our fear-based efforts, we cannot ultimately hide from what we are–fearless love. Unmani is inviting us to come out from hiding behind our intellectual knowledge. She is inviting us to stop pretending that we are something other than love. Thank you Unmani, for a wonderful gift to humanity!’
