If you have lost a loved one… recently or many years ago…

If you are grieving the end of a relationship, or another kind of ending…

If you feel grief about life as you once knew it…

If you are grieving and feel alone with what you are experiencing…

If you would like to feel heard by others who understand what you are going through…

You are very welcome to join our monthly Grief Circle Gatherings.

In our modern society, grief and loss are so often brushed aside and we are expected to just get on with things as usual. There is no clear structure of support that we can lean into when we are going through the rollercoaster of complicated and often conflicting emotions and experiences, that inevitably follows a loss. But grief is as natural a part of life, as death and loss is. Grief can also be a doorway into waking up out of our usual habitual patterns of suppressing parts of ourselves. Grief breaks down the boundaries that separate us, and reminds us of what is real and true.

I create a circle where everyone can share, and open up their hearts in a safe space where everything is welcome. Having gone through intense loss myself, I feel that having the support of others to listen to, and just be with each other in recognition of our journey, can really support us in a way that can often be quite surprising.

We may never fully heal from loss, but the wound can become a portal for love to enter and soften our hearts. We don’t need to hide or deny what we are going through – it is so very human. We will all inevitably lose our loved ones at some point in our lives. And with each loss, we can either close up and surround ourselves in an isolated and lonely tower, in an attempt to protect us from feeling the pain, or we can open up and offer up our hearts to the reality of life. Grief essentially is love. So let’s come together to express our love, as well as all of the very human experiences that we go through as we grieve. Let’s create a supportive circle to hold us all in whatever comes up.

My Story

After my husband, and love of my life, died from a sudden heart attack while we were in India, I was a broken mess. I was alone with a small child who had just lost his wonderful daddy, and I was falling apart at the seams. Dealing with the practicalities of daily life was overwhelming and yet there was no other option. Some of the time I would sit in a kind of stunned silence, and then other moments I found myself screaming with immense rage at the sea. I tried to support myself by reading everything I could get my hands on about grief and loss, but essentially the main thing that helped was being able to share with others who had experienced something similar. I poured my heart out on social media about what I was experiencing each day. The unspeakable pain, the rage, the agony, the guilt, the longing, the trying to understand, the numbness, and so much more… But most importantly I felt compelled to share about the love. I realised that since my beloved had died, I had turned inside out, and all the love that we shared, had to be shared with the world. It was the only way. This became such a healing journey.

Nearly 5 years later now, I feel I have gone through such a deeply intense journey into love, and myself. I still miss my darling Robert. I still sometimes feel waves of everything that I felt in those awful first weeks just after he died, but now it feels so much more gentle. He will always be with me. He is in me. He always was, and always will be. His death has in many ways also been such a gift that has cracked me open endlessly to life in all its forms. I feel that my heart has been permanently broken open, and all it can do is keep bleeding with love…